You've been carrying this alone.
not anymore.
A whole area of family life moves out of your head and into someone else's, the thinking included. Not a shared list. A load you actually put down.
Carried is not a scoreboard
It gets called a few things it isn't, usually before anyone has opened it. So, plainly.
A scorecard
Nothing in Carried tallies who did more. There is no ledger, no points, no receipt to win an argument with. A product built to settle who is right needs the argument to keep going. This one is trying to end it.
A shared calendar
A calendar shows two people the same list. It does not change whose head the list lives in. Carried moves the holding, not the viewing.
A chore chart
Nobody is assigned, reminded, or checked up on. There is no screen that shows whether they opened the app. A partner picks an area and owns it, start to finish.
One person takes an area, and genuinely takes it.
The noticing, the deciding, the remembering, and the doing. All of it moves. It leaves her head and it stays gone. That is the whole product.
This is not misery moved from one person to the other. When cognitive labour is genuinely shared, relationship satisfaction is highest for both partners, across every dimension measured.
Petts, Carlson and Wong, Journal of Marriage and Family, 2025
of the household's mental load is managed by mothers. For the daily, relentless part, meals, washing, and getting everyone where they need to be, it is 79%.
Weeks and Ruppanner, Journal of Marriage and Family, 3,000 parents
Same households, same question, one scale where two means shared equally. He is not lying. He genuinely cannot see it, because most of the work was never visible in the first place.
Closing that gap is not the same as apportioning blame. Carried closes the gap.
Petts, Carlson and Wong, Journal of Marriage and Family, 2025
How much of this lives in your head?
Carried is where all of it goes. Want to know how much of it has genuinely left your head?
take the mental load quizThree beats to lighter
No system to learn. Just the rhythm of putting things down.
Drop it
Capture a load-thought in seconds, before it becomes 2am inventory.
Hand it over whole
An entire area moves across, the noticing and deciding with it. Not a chore they get reminded about.
Put it down
The system remembers, so you don't have to.
Built for real life, not ideal conditions
The Drop
Voice-first capture while driving or feeding. Speak it, and it's caught and sorted for you.
The Release
An end-of-day offload, so your nervous system finally gets to rest.
The Files
39 named areas of invisible family work, already written down, each ready to hand over in full.
The Share
Full ownership of an area, the thinking included. Not a chore handed over with instructions attached.
The Rhythm
Five minutes on Sunday. One question: is this arrangement still working.
Goals
Big things broken into small, under-30-minute daily steps.
Plus the quiet ones: a daily load picture, cycle reminders, a TOG sleep-bag weather guide, and a wins jar.
It lives on your phone, not in your head
You are not being told you do nothing.
Nothing in here counts what you do or sets it against what your partner does. The research behind it is blunt in both directions. Asked to rate the same household on a scale where two means shared equally, mothers say 1.05 and fathers say 2.05. That gap is not dishonesty. It is that most of this work was never visible from the outside, including to the person carrying it.
Carried makes one area of it visible, once, so you can pick it up properly rather than being handed instructions forever. You choose the area. You run it your way. Nobody checks. And the evidence says this is the arrangement where both of you report the relationship going better, not just your partner.
The Bridge
Context before tasks, always. A short piece you read together first, so your partner comes in owning a lane, not helping out.
The invisible made visible
The real load, in plain language, specific to your family.
The why
The mental load explained. A system problem, not a personal failing.
The invitation
They choose their areas. Invited, not assigned.
The Rhythm commitment
You both agree to the Sunday check-in before you finish.
The mental load quiz
Ten questions about your house. It sorts each area into three piles: actually gone, looks shared but isn't, and all yours. Most people are surprised by the middle pile, because that is where the weight hides.
Take the quizYour answers stay in your browser and are never sent anywhere.
The Motherhood Load Survey
Twenty-four questions about what motherhood actually takes, answered by the women doing it. No name, no email, nothing that identifies you, and you can skip anything you would rather not answer.
Australian data on this barely exists. This is how we make some. The findings get published.
Take the surveyDinner, decided.
The week's dinners and the shopping list, done for you. Free.
Carried was built by Tiarne Banks, a mum of two in Thirroul, before sunrise, because she needed it first.
She left twelve years of bridal makeup to build it solo. It's the app she wished existed at 9pm, with a full head and a quiet house.
put it down.
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